“Empowering the abused woman to recover with God's truth"
AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session One Part 1C – Oct 15, 2013
1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing
2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body
3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday Oct 22, 2013
4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before next Tuesday Oct 22, 2013
5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart
6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY OCTOBER 22ND
Violence & Abuse Recovery Program
Lesson: Session One – Part 1C – Study This
Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!
Session One’s Goal: to define Violence & Abuse
The Cycle of Violence in Domestic Abuse: Oct 15th
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are very real.
The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence: An Example
A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up.
Source: Mid-Valley Women's Crisis Service
In His Service,
Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks
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