“Empowering the abused woman to recover with God's truth"
”Principality of Fear”
These situations (being verbally abused, being emotionally abused, being physically abused, or being sexually abused) create a performance-orientated person. The person feels like they must be good and perfect or they will not be accepted or okay. They live in the fear of being rejected.
1 John 4:18 says, "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love!" Love gives no place to fear, but when we are not loved perfectly, fear finds an open door. I John 4:18b says, "Perfect love casts out fear" then, "fear has torment." And, "he that feareth [because of the breakdown in love] is not made perfect in love."
When we're afraid because we've not been loved perfectly since our youngest days, we’re not able to give or receive love without fear. That's what the Bible means by, "he that feareth is not made perfect in love."
Psalms 34:4-5 says, "I sought the LORD, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. They looked unto Him, and were lightened: and their faces were not ashamed." When we have shame, we have fear. When we feel unworthy, we have fear. When we feel guilty, we have fear. When we feel condemned, we have fear. When we feel like second-rate citizens (self-condemnation), we have fear.
It is important for us to recognize the various kinds of fear that trouble us. Number one on the list is fear of man. What is fear of man? It is fear of others, including our mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, brothers, sisters, pastors, parents, bosses, and schoolteachers: fear of anyone or everyone. The Word of God provides the antidote that combats the fear of man. Hebrews 11:34 says, "…Quenched the violence of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, waxed valiant in fight, turned to flight the armies of the aliens."
May God bless you all and keep you all,
Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks