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"Hidden Bondages" - Soul Ties Part 3 - Session 7


"Now Dinah, the daughter Leah had borne to Jacob, went out to visit the women of the land. 2 When Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, the ruler of that area, saw her, he took her and raped her. 3 His heart was drawn to Dinah daughter of Jacob; he loved the young woman and spoke tenderly to her." (Genesis 34:1-3).


"But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites: 2 Of the nations concerning which the LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love." (1 Kings 11:1-2).


"15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” (1 Corinthians 6:15-  16).


God's plan for a man and a woman is not at all like that of the world. First, He would have them come together and bond in the area of the spirit. Over time, as they get to know one another, a bonding of the mind and emotions would occur. Then, only after solemn vows of commitment in marriage, would any bonding of the body be permissible. The world has it backwards.

Generally, the first thing to bond is the body through sexual indulgences of various degrees. Then, due to strong physical attraction, a couple will get married (if they even do that anymore). After a while, they come to know one another in their soul, mind and emotions. That's when they begin to discover that they're really not so compatible after all. The woman discovers that her attractive husband has an abusive, violent streak. The man finds that the sweet lady he married is full of insecurity and control. The way of the world is totally backwards. That's why the way of the Lord is the only way to go. When you prioritize the things of the Lord over the issues of a relationship, you'll ultimately find both. Jesus said, "But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." (Matthew 6:33).


"4 But the king covered his face, and the king cried out with a loud voice, “O my son Absalom! O Absalom, my son, my son!” 5 Then Joab came into the house to the king, and said, “Today you have disgraced all your servants who today have saved your life, the lives of your sons and daughters, the lives of your wives and the lives of your concubines, 6 in that you love your enemies and hate your friends. For you have declared today that you regard neither princes nor servants; for today I perceive that if Absalom had lived and all of us had died today, then it would have pleased you well." (2 Samuel 19:4-6).


King David had an unhealthy soul tie with his son, Absalom, who rebelled against him and contributed to the deaths of thousands. David's tie was undoubtedly rooted in guilt, for in many ways he had failed in his son's rearing. The result being that after Absalom was killed and his armies routed, David shamed his own armies by pining away.


As strange as it may seem, it is possible to be soul tied to the dead. The Biblical prescription for mourning was to be seven to thirty days (see Genesis 50:10 and Deuteronomy 34:8). Then you were to put your grief behind you and go on. God knew that excessive and lasting grief would only open one's soul to heaviness, gloom and despair.


We've all heard stories of a heartbroken parent who, after a child's death, keeps his room exactly like it was for many years. Such excessive grief brings heaviness and gloom to others in the house. It's as if the spirit of death were invited to remain. The same thing can happen with women who have had an abortion. Even after they've asked and received forgiveness for the deed, guilt and shame often remain. This is generally an indication of a soul tie with the aborted child. Until and unless the soul tie is broken, the mother will be subject to bouts of depression and guilt. But when that bond is severed, they're able to put it behind them once and for all, and live life free from the failure of their past. 

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NOTE: Part 3 – Session 7, was taken from “Hidden Bondages” –

God bless,

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks


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