Domestic Violence Seminar, "Journey of Freedom: Violence & Abuse" Program 2020 Revisited 11-14-22! (S3 Part 3A)

[Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD]

“Violence & Abuse “Complete Program Sessions, Summaries, & Videos (Revisited 11-14-2022)

Due to the recent cases of domestic violence, that ended in the death of the victims, along with other innocent loved ones, I believe God wants me to revisit the “Domestic Violence Seminar: Violence & Abuse” Program’s teachings, Minister Everett James, and I started in July of 2020.

The second program in the "Journey of Freedom" Program is the "Violence & Abuse" Program. In this program, there are three sessions, and several parts to each session; the outline, and summary for each session is down below. And the YouTube video link will be attached to the title of that part, in that session. The content of the original “Violence & Abuse” Program is the same. But to keep the videos, and sessions in order, I am not changing the original dates on the YouTube videos, or the PDF version of the “Violence & Abuse” complete program teaching. However, I am changing dates on the weekly “Violence & Abuse” teachings. And will leave the origin date on the teaching notes also. Example: “Violence & Abuse,” Session 1 original dates were from 8-24 to 9-14-2020. On the outline/summary of the first part of session 1, which is “List Types of Abuse,” will look like this (sample from “Session1”):

Domestic Violence Seminar, “Violence & Abuse,” Session 1 (8-24 to 9-14-2020/9-26 to 10-17-2022). Goal: to define violence & abuse. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• List Types of Abuse - Part 1A – 8-24-2020 (9-26-2022)
• Define Each Type - Part 1A-1 – 8-24-2020 (9-26-2022)

Click here for the “Violence & Abuse,” complete program teaching, so you can have it in case you would like to study on your own or share with a friend so he/she can study with you.

Click here for Complete “Importance of Forgiveness” Program, so you can have it to study at any time – the YouTube video link will be attached to the title of that session.

Domestic Violence Seminar, “Violence & Abuse,” Session 3 10-12 to 11-9-2020/11-14 to 12-12-2022). Goal: to recognize abuse and its cycle. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse - Part 3A – 10-12-2020 (11-14-2022)
• Understand Why The Victim Stays - Part 3A – 10-19-2020 (11-14-2022)
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Part 3B – 10-26-2020 (11-21-2022)
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Part 3C – 11-2-2020 (11-28-2022)
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Part 3D – 11-2-2022 (12-5-2022)
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Part 3D-1 & D-2 – 11-9-2020 (12-12-2022)

Domestic Violence Seminar, “Violence & Abuse,” Session 3 – Part 3A (10-12-2020/11-14-2022): In Session 3, “Understand Why Abusers Abuse & “Understand Why the Victims Stay” of the “Violence & Abuse” Program, Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, discusses the following topics:

*Read Session Foundation – Part 3A: Breaking the cycle of abuse begins with acknowledgement of where you are, and what your responsibilities, in a situation are. Even the victim must recognize why they stay in a violent and abusive situation. When we acknowledge our own issues aside from the other person’s then we can make a decision about how to change the behavior that keeps us locked in the cycle of abuse. Scripture basis: The fool who provokes his family to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left. He shall be the servant of a wiser man…Proverbs 11:29 TLB. So, you can say, the person who provokes anyone to anger and resentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left.

* Why do people abuse? – Part 3A: Characteristics of the perpetrator – lack of communication; poor self-image; jealousy; cultural upbringing; alcohol and/or drugs; mental illness; power & control; learned behavior.

Note: 35% of people who abuse do so while under the influence of alcohol (Alcohol Use and Abuse Statistics - Last Updated: December 29, 2021).

*Why do victims stay? – Part 3A:

A. Fear - What do they fear? – Loss of life; children being hurt; not being able to make it on their own; not knowing where they will go; being considered a failure in the relationship.

B. Children - Belief that children need both parents; do not want children to suffer financial hardships; if children are not abused then they are okay. But the children are abused, they are being abused every time the abuser abuses you; the trauma of seeing you get beat over and over will haunt them later if they do not receive counseling. Because abuse is a learned behavior, remember? So, they will grow up becoming an abuser or becoming a victim if they do not receive help also after you leave the abuser.

C. Economic dependency - The strategy of the abuser is to keep you there with them and they will do everything they can to accomplish their purpose. You think they married you or got into a relationship with you for “love” but sorry to disappoint you, you were an easy “mark” for them. They saw the neediness in you (looking for love) and you became to them someone they can totally manipulate and control.

D. Religious/cultural beliefs – Feels separation and divorce are wrong; already sought help from clergy and were told it was their lot in life or stay and pray; failed marital counseling.

E. Low self-esteem - Devalued; isolated; taking responsibility for the abuse; believe it is the best they can have; shame; feels trapped.

Some other reasons why victims of domestic violence stay are, shame; toxic love; hope for change; no place to go; denial, denial, denial… It also says something about you, you do not value yourself as a human being. You are not seeing that you are “fearfully and wonderfully” made in the image of God. And you will only see that once you are out of the abusive relationship. After God has cleaned you up from the filth of the relationship, He will begin to open your eyes to who you are; you must come out though from the “drama,” so you can clearly see.

Domestic violence is not just a secular issue, there are many Christian wives who are also being tormented by an abusive husband. These series of seminars are designed to help domestic violence victims obtain wholeness from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. This training will also prepare Christian ministers, counselors, and other Christian workers to provide healing to the domestic violence victim.

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD is the founder of Abused Woman Ministries Inc. She will be teaching several courses on domestic violence and recovery. Again, to contact Dr. Hooks, email her at [e-mail], or go to her website, www.abusedwoman.org.

The subjects that are covered in the “Journey of Freedom” Program are, “The Importance of Forgiveness;” “Violence and Abuse Recovery;” “Anger Management Recovery;” “Emotional Healing;” and “Unholy Matrimony Healing for the Abused Woman Book Group.”

Minister Everett James, Th.D., is the Director of Eastern Missouri Bible College, formerly known as the Good Samaritan Bible Institute, is the educational arm of Upper Room Ministries which is located in Saint Louis, Missouri. 

To contact Minister James, email him at [e-mail] or visit his website at Eastern Missouri Bible College (mn.co).

 

PDF Handouts for Session 3-Part 3A - (click below):

"Violence & Abuse" S3 P3A - 11-14-2022

 

Next week’s Topic (Session 3, Part 3B 10-19-2020/11-21-2022): “Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse” & “Categories of Abuse.”

God's BLESSINGS to you all and your families!!

In Christ, 

Rev. Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD