Domestic Violence Seminar, "JOF: Violence & Abuse" Program 2020 & Beyond! Revisited 2022 Live Session 10-31-2022

[Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD]

“Session 2, Parts 2B & 2B-1” Live Session 10-31-2022

Hello everyone! I pray that you all and your families are very well!! We are continuing today with our “Violence & Abuse” Program, in the “Domestic Violence Seminar” series. As I stated before, this is the second program in the "Journey of Freedom" Program. In this program, there are three sessions, and several parts to each session. The complete outline, for each session will be included at the end of each week’s session. You will see on my website, www.abusedwoman.ning, and Minister Everett James’ website, Eastern Missouri Bible College, the “Violence & Abuse” weekly summaries by date first before the video is posted. The video will be posted after we record our live sessions on Monday evenings – the link to that session’s video will be attached to the title of the session. Therefore, as the summaries are released each week, you will have the opportunity to study the materials before the video is posted.

Zoom information: Day & Time: Mondays 5:30p (CST) – 6:30P (EST)

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Meeting ID: 899 3465 1962     Meeting Password: 035519

Mobile: [phone], then 89934651962#, then 035519# US

These are the previous sessions of the “Domestic Violence Seminar” Programs w/summaries and videos:

“Importance of Forgiveness” (Completed Program)

“Violence & Abuse” – this link will take you to the parts of the program that we completed in 2020 (up to “Session 2, Part 2A” which is dated 9-21-2020). Also at this link, you will find the complete upcoming “Violence & Abuse” summaries. Minister Everett James and I restarted the “Violence & Abuse” Program on 10-24-2022. However, there was no video recording because we had technical issues.

Click here to view “Session 2, Part 2A” from the “Violence & Abuse” Program on 9-21-2020 which is the session revisited on 10-24-2022.

Click here to view the “Agenda October 24, 2022” that goes with the “Violence & Abuse” Program from October 24, 2022.

Click here for dates of 9-26 to 10-17-22 of the "Violence & Abuse Revisited 2022 Program" before continuing with "Session 2, Parts 2B & 2B-1” for 10-31-22.

Domestic Violence Seminar, “Violence & Abuse,” Session 2 (9-21 to 10-5-2020/10-24 to 11-7-2022). Goal: to recognize abuse and its cycle. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• Review Previous Section – Part 2A – 9-21-2020 (10-24-2022)
• Premise Before Next Section – Part 2A – 9-21-2020 (10-24-2022)
• List the Ways to Recognize Abuse – Part 2B – 9-28-2020 (10-31-2022)
• Learn & Understand the Cycles of Abuse – Part 2B-1 – 9-28-2020 (10-31-2022)
• Explore How to Stop the Cycle of Abuse - Part 2C – 10-5-2020 (11-7-2022)
• Establish a Personal Bill of Right - Part 2C – 10-5-2022 (11-7-2022)

Domestic Violence Seminar, “Violence & Abuse,” Session 2 – Part...: In Session 2, “List ways to recognize abuse” & “Learn & Understand the Cycles of Abuse” of the “Violence & Abuse” Program, Dr. Dorothy Hooks, discusses the following topics:

*List ways to recognize abuse – Part 2B:

• Physical – does your partner: push or shove, slap, bite, hold you down, abandon/threaten/hurt you, kick or choke you, hit or punch you, or throw objects at you?

• Emotional – does your partner: ignore your feelings, make fun of you, insult your family/friends, embarrass you in public, call you names or shout, control your action, lie/manipulate, or threaten you with a weapon?

• Sexual – does your partner: tell jokes, make demeaning remarks, get jealous (a form of control), or force unwanted sexual acts?

*Learn and Understand the Cycles of Abuse – Part 2B-1:

The cycles of abuse are tension building, explosion, and love. Each phase will increase in time and intensify the longer the abuse goes on. Let’s look at what happens during these cycles so that we can help you recognize each cycle so you will know them to prevent this abuse from happening again.

• Tension building: victim can sense the abuser’s edginess; small issues are smoothed over; the victim feels the need to control the situation; the victim denies anger; the victim believes they deserve the abuse. To cope, the victim denies the second phase will occur and believes they have control; the victim’s anger grows after each incident; the abuser knows their behavior is wrong and fears losing the victim; the victim withdraws in order to stay away from the abuser; abuser’s jealousy and smothering brutality increases; abuser accepts that their rage is out of control but justifies it; tension rises….

• Explosion: Abuser no longer understands their rage; abuser feels the need to teach the victim a lesson; the victim will often release their anger and fight back; incidents generally last from a few hours to a couple of days; abuser seems to know how to prolong the attack without killing the victim; the victim will deny the seriousness of their injuries, sometimes to stop the abuse and assure that phase is over…

• Love: Welcomed by both; abuser sorry, try to make up; fears losing the victim; charming and manipulative; abuser believe they can control the victim and never hurt the one they love again; abuser convinces everyone; victim wants to believe this and convinces their self; victim sees a glimpse of the original view of how nice the abuser was; abuser plays dependent; victim ends up feeling responsible for the abuser and the victimization itself (this establishes a victim mentality in the individual); abuser gives the victim whatever they want.

No one deserves to be abused. We each have a right to live a healthy, happy, violence-free life. We are empowered to do so when we understand our personal rights and take control of our own life, therefore, becoming the steersman of our future.

Domestic violence is not just a secular issue, there are many Christian wives, and husbands, who are also being tormented by an abusive husband, or wife. These series of seminars are designed to help domestic violence victims obtain wholeness from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. This training will also prepare Christian ministers, counselors, and other Christian workers to provide healing to the domestic violence victim.

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks, PsyD is the founder of Abused Woman Ministries Inc. She will be teaching several courses on domestic violence and recovery.  To contact Dr. Hooks, email her at [e-mail], or go to her website, www.abusedwoman.org.

The subjects that are covered in the “Journey of Freedom” Program are, “The Importance of Forgiveness;” “Violence and Abuse Recovery;” “Anger Management Recovery;” “Emotional Healing;” and “Unholy Matrimony Healing for the Abused Woman Book Group.”

Minister Everett James, Th.D., is the Director of Eastern Missouri Bible College, formerly known as the Good Samaritan Bible Institute, which is the educational arm of Upper Room Ministries and is located in Saint Louis, Missouri.

To contact Minister James, email him at [e-mail] or visit his website at Eastern Missouri Bible College.

PDF Handout for Session 2-Parts 2B & 2B-1 Study Notes - (click below):

"Violence & Abuse" S2 P2B & 2B-1 - 9-28-2020/10-31-2022

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Next week’s Topic (Session 2, Part 2C 10-5-2020/11-7-2022): “Explore how to STOP the Cycle of Abuse” & “Establish a Personal Bill of Right.”

God's BLESSINGS to you all and your families!!

In Christ,

Rev. Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks